Ok,
This weekend I've realised that my friend finally has come to terms with the fact that I cannot change my clumsiness and forgetfulness and that he has to accept me like that. When we started going out and he started to know me better he is the one who first said that I was dyspraxic (he used to work in SEN), then for about a year he tried to change me by giving me advise on how not to loose things, not to get lost and not to fall down. he used to get upset every time I did any of these things...well or when I ask him a thousand times the same question. he finally seems to have accepted that i can't help it. Lately I've realised that he takes it better when I ask him something twice and he just tells me: we've had this conversation before, either you write this down so that you forget again (which does help) or I won't repeat it as tomorrow you'll have forgotten it again (true, and I have to resepct the fact that he hates repeating things. he doesn't repeat things for other people, just for me). The other day, I left my helmet somewhere and he decided to go around all the shops where we had been asking if they had found a helmet. He didn't get upset or tell me that I am a mess and I wouldn't have found it if it hadn't been for him. Same when I've tripped over. Now he just smiles.
Why do I share this? because I am happy about it, cos at one point in our relationship I thought he just wanted someone who was not me and he couldn't accept me as I am and now I feel that people need time to adjust to you (Well, I guess some people, not everybody, but maybe that's how you recognise the ones who are worth)
He finally understands and accepts me!
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He finally understands and accepts me!
Eva in London
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