Screwing up the best thing you had

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Jim
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Re: Screwing up the best thing you had

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FAndrews wrote:the only time a girl has asked me out was at school and was a prank :(
I've been on the receiving end of a few of those as well, it was meant to be seen as funny of-course but the problem is that it affected my ability to recognize genuine approaches as well. So I've possibly turned down perfectly eligible relationships (in the long past) on the grounds that I thought they were taking the ****. It also affected my confidence in making the approach myself partly through fearing rejection but also because I was convinced that I'd be laughed at and humiliated.
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Ein
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Re: Screwing up the best thing you had

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I can relate to morphing into someone I am not. My first relationship lasted a few years and since not gone past five months. Downsides include, feeling trapped even when in a long distance relationship, pushing people away, erratic moods and not being able to communicate feelings. I have either ended it or pushed someone to do it.
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Re: Screwing up the best thing you had

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My bf broke up with me recently and it ultimately sounds like it's all my fault for being not good enough a gf, not being loving enough or forward enough, etc. And I suppose my dyspraxic tendencies, the way my mind works, had something to do with this decision. Baah. Kind of makes me think, if it ain't going to work there, after over three years, will it ever? Can't see my ways changing much now. Big rethink for me for later in terms of what I want from a relationship if I have another one.
Hopefully not making too many moot points... heh... *ahem* :D
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Re: Screwing up the best thing you had

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I can relate to this a lot. I'm like a switch once it flicks on, you can't turn it off again and a different side comes out.

So what triggers it? Over thinking, not getting the answers I want to hear. It's usually bottled up emotions, which do tend to turn into verbal snappy remarks.

I feel bad for your situation but can relate. I find people, tend to lose their cool with me after putting up with that other side for sometime. Then it all comes back out at me and I feel hurt by what other people have said.

Relationships are tough and I've ended them before, for one reason or another. Sometimes I should probably be less stubborn but I feel like I operate differently from others. I suppose, it's a way of learning how to relate to the people that surround us and trying not to hurt their feelings but communication is difficult. It builds up a lot of frustration and noise in my head.
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