'Hi, I would like to know how to think of myself, love myself but not be selfish, how to be there for others but not have to rescue them often... Be trusthworthy and considerate,sensitive but not be made a fool of or taken advantage of...???
Please help me! I want to be careful that i dont display selfish behaviour which isnt who i am???
Out of couriousty i would like you to tell me about yourself and what you did to be a better person and what the results were...???
Wb.....
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Re: How to be a better person
Hi
In answer to your question,it isn't always easy to love yourself,I have found it extremely difficult and still do,but if you try and have a positive outlook and believe in yourself then it can get easier.
It is difficult to be aware of when you are being taken advantage of and unfortunately I have no complete answer to this.Just being yourself will be enough if you have true friends around you.Being there doesn't necessarily mean having to contiunally rescuing people,just offering a shoulder to cry on or a hand to hold,in my experience is enough.I will admit though that I have gone back to being a selfish idiot at times and messed things up monumentally,but you will learn from this.
In my own personal experience I found that if I opened up to people by being more trustworthy and caring then it was a really good thing,as it helped me become hopefully a better person for it,and people do now tend to respond better to me and my way of thinking then they did before
Hope this helps
Alex
In answer to your question,it isn't always easy to love yourself,I have found it extremely difficult and still do,but if you try and have a positive outlook and believe in yourself then it can get easier.
It is difficult to be aware of when you are being taken advantage of and unfortunately I have no complete answer to this.Just being yourself will be enough if you have true friends around you.Being there doesn't necessarily mean having to contiunally rescuing people,just offering a shoulder to cry on or a hand to hold,in my experience is enough.I will admit though that I have gone back to being a selfish idiot at times and messed things up monumentally,but you will learn from this.
In my own personal experience I found that if I opened up to people by being more trustworthy and caring then it was a really good thing,as it helped me become hopefully a better person for it,and people do now tend to respond better to me and my way of thinking then they did before
Hope this helps
Alex
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Re: How to be a better person
Sounds like my life ambition a couple of years ago.
Esteemable things build self esteem.
Esteem is the balance for arrogance and selfishness.
I'm massively arrogant - but it's kept largely in check by an active attempt to do some good in this world.
It starts with making my bed in the morning. Washing straight away. Looking after my body. Keeping my flat tidy. Holding a door for an old woman. Helping out in the community. Getting involved in local politics. Doing charity work.
Little things, every day.
Soon, you wont need to be selfish, because you'll have everything you want.
Soon, arrogance will slip away, because you won't need to 'prove' to yourself how good you are - you can see it in your day to day activity.
Sorry to sound like a hippy - but my god, it works
Esteemable things build self esteem.
Esteem is the balance for arrogance and selfishness.
I'm massively arrogant - but it's kept largely in check by an active attempt to do some good in this world.
It starts with making my bed in the morning. Washing straight away. Looking after my body. Keeping my flat tidy. Holding a door for an old woman. Helping out in the community. Getting involved in local politics. Doing charity work.
Little things, every day.
Soon, you wont need to be selfish, because you'll have everything you want.
Soon, arrogance will slip away, because you won't need to 'prove' to yourself how good you are - you can see it in your day to day activity.
Sorry to sound like a hippy - but my god, it works
Re: How to be a better person
I'm always trying to be perfect, It's exhausting and I don't seem to be getting anywhere at times. Then again I really appreciate my friendsships with women though I have got the wrong idea about what that means on occasion.
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Re: How to be a better person
It is not about trying to be the best, it is about doing better.