Connecting

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Desert Rose
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Connecting

Postby Desert Rose » Sun Nov 12, 2017 3:19 pm

One of the things I noticed in my life is that I really struggle to get to know people, lacking the confidence to break the ice, I feel that I seldom actually connect with people and get past the pleasantries. This doesn't particularly bother me though as I feel more comfortable around fewer people, that and I'm more likely to get to know less judgemental and more open minded people. Does anyone else experience this lack of confidence with communicating and connecting with people?

Maximus12
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Re: Connecting

Postby Maximus12 » Mon Nov 13, 2017 12:11 am

Oh yeah, all the time. I haven't any real close friends because I find it difficult to communicate with people generally. I find a lot of people complain, often about other people and I can't feign interest in what are usually self-made or unimportant problems.

Desert Rose
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Re: Connecting

Postby Desert Rose » Mon Nov 13, 2017 12:44 am

Maximus12 wrote:Oh yeah, all the time. I haven't any real close friends because I find it difficult to communicate with people generally. I find a lot of people complain, often about other people and I can't feign interest in what are usually self-made or unimportant problems.


It's quite hard to describe isn't it? I just don't feel that there's any mutual understanding with people most of the time, I feel judged or too anxious and just back out of it.

Asides from that, I usually want to talk about matters that other people don't, I like to talk about fairly deep thijngs.

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Re: Connecting

Postby Tom fod » Mon Nov 13, 2017 11:27 pm

Do feel free to initiate some general discussioms in the Lounge area here or if they're Dyspraxia focussed in an appropriate topiic category.

I do find I'm not really into small talk, gossip or celeb-based tittle tattle.

I do think it's easy to overlook the fact we are respected and even admired by some people, due to our sometimes poor levels of self esteem.
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Poppy91
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Re: Connecting

Postby Poppy91 » Tue Nov 14, 2017 8:01 pm

Desert Rose wrote:One of the things I noticed in my life is that I really struggle to get to know people, lacking the confidence to break the ice, I feel that I seldom actually connect with people and get past the pleasantries. This doesn't particularly bother me though as I feel more comfortable around fewer people, that and I'm more likely to get to know less judgemental and more open minded people. Does anyone else experience this lack of confidence with communicating and connecting with people?


I feel exactly the same. I have been friends with a couple of groups and they always seem to become close and then there's me. I also always want to chat about things that a lot of people I meet aren't interested in.. 'deep' topics are my favourite! Always thought at some point I would meet more people on the same wave length as me :(

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Re: Connecting

Postby Desert Rose » Tue Nov 14, 2017 8:15 pm

Poppy91 wrote:
Desert Rose wrote:One of the things I noticed in my life is that I really struggle to get to know people, lacking the confidence to break the ice, I feel that I seldom actually connect with people and get past the pleasantries. This doesn't particularly bother me though as I feel more comfortable around fewer people, that and I'm more likely to get to know less judgemental and more open minded people. Does anyone else experience this lack of confidence with communicating and connecting with people?


I feel exactly the same. I have been friends with a couple of groups and they always seem to become close and then there's me. I also always want to chat about things that a lot of people I meet aren't interested in.. 'deep' topics are my favourite! Always thought at some point I would meet more people on the same wave length as me :(


Sounds all too familiar.

I only really have a few friends but I feel absoltely blessed to have them because we can talk endlessly about things that matter to us, and we really have a mutual understanding. I may have very few friends but they are very close to me, and sometimes I feel that they are all I need. I've stopped worrying about people I don't connect with as those relationships aren't beneficial to me, they have only made me horrendously anxious.


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