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by Xenavire
Fri Jan 17, 2020 5:31 pm
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: Random acts of kindness
Replies: 7
Views: 550

Re: Random acts of kindness

That's truly staggering, a wonderful group of people. I guess the saying has truth to it, about people that would give the clothes off their backs. I'm so glad they helped you, that situation would have been truly awful otherwise.
by Xenavire
Thu Jan 16, 2020 12:25 pm
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: How did you feeling when you found out you had dyspraxia?
Replies: 4
Views: 124

Re: How did you feeling when you found out you had dyspraxia?

I'm afraid I don't actually remember clearly (my memories of my childhood are basically missing in large chunks, I suffered from undiagnosed depression for an unknown time so I've always assumed they were related.) But from the little I do remember, it was definitely a relief in some ways. I don't k...
by Xenavire
Thu Jan 16, 2020 12:08 pm
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: Looking for help with a school project.
Replies: 4
Views: 111

Re: Looking for help with a school project.

I'd have no objections to helping if my input would have any value.
by Xenavire
Wed Jan 15, 2020 11:10 am
Forum: Transport
Topic: Driving
Replies: 7
Views: 520

Re: Driving

I can't say anything with certainty, but I imagine driving is more similar to biking than swimming, which seems like a good thing for you. Most sports require very different things from us than riding a bike. Driving requires spatial awareness and the ability to steer, two things in common with biki...
by Xenavire
Tue Jan 14, 2020 10:21 pm
Forum: Transport
Topic: Driving
Replies: 7
Views: 520

Re: Driving

I'm someone that has the option to choose not to drive (Netherlands has great public transportation), so the choice was easy for me. I'm absolutely certain I could pass, almost certainly on my first attempt. But I don't believe that I would be safe behind the wheel over an extended period. I'd rathe...
by Xenavire
Sun Jan 12, 2020 11:26 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships
Replies: 5
Views: 607

Re: Relationships

My advice, put as simply as possible, is to learn from every mistake you make and try your best not to repeat them. I'm still with my first girlfriend (12 years together last Thursday), and as madly in love with her I still am, I made some titanic mistakes that nearly blew the whole relationship up ...
by Xenavire
Sat Jan 11, 2020 11:53 am
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: Avoidant ?
Replies: 3
Views: 146

Re: Avoidant ?

Absolutely. I may have extreme confidence in some of my abilities, and little to no fear in many aspects of my life, but there are many things I will avoid as though they were on fire. I believe it is pragmatism to be selective about what we do and don't do, rather than fear. For example, I refuse t...
by Xenavire
Sun Jan 05, 2020 11:11 am
Forum: Studying
Topic: I need advice
Replies: 7
Views: 196

Re: I need advice

Well, knowing you have Dyspraxia is always a good first step towards making changes, the kinds of changes that make your life easier. As a kid, I loved books, but writing (both physically and mentally) seemed impossible, so I never considered it. Now I'm working on a story I hope to publish, and tha...
by Xenavire
Sat Jan 04, 2020 11:55 pm
Forum: Studying
Topic: I need advice
Replies: 7
Views: 196

Re: I need advice

Adults are generally much more relaxed, so that's already something positive (they would be less likely to cause you problems.) Other than that, I'd suggest finding a university (or even just a few staff members or teachers) that are willing to help you smooth out the experience. Last thought - knoc...
by Xenavire
Fri Jan 03, 2020 12:42 am
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: is it a "proper" disability?
Replies: 13
Views: 2940

Re: is it a "proper" disability?

The learning disability idea is a tough one to say either way. Dyspraxia certainly doesn't prevent us from learning, however it can make things quite difficult at times, especially in a classroom. You are expected to keep up, and often we can't, even though we understand it perfectly well. Managed p...
by Xenavire
Tue Dec 31, 2019 1:27 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: A teaching dyspraxic
Replies: 4
Views: 418

Re: A teaching dyspraxic

I also have difficulty retaining information or tasks (especially when I am given too much in a short period.) A trick I use is setting myself alarms for basic day-to-day things, freeing up my "memory" for other things (it's not foolproof sadly, but I manage better than I used to.) I debated with th...
by Xenavire
Thu Dec 26, 2019 4:26 pm
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: Seasons Greetings
Replies: 2
Views: 141

Re: Seasons Greetings

You too Tom, and the same from me to everyone else here. I had a decent 2019, all things considered, and I plan to make 2020 even better, and I hope everyone here can do the same!
by Xenavire
Fri Dec 20, 2019 2:39 am
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: How do you deal with anger issues?
Replies: 3
Views: 128

Re: How do you deal with anger issues?

I'm wracking my brains to try to answer this, because I went from incredibly easy to agitate to extremely relaxed and hard to anger. (Not to say I can't get mad, but generally I just vent a little and then I'm good.) I guess my simplest answer (and probably hardest possible advice to follow), is to ...
by Xenavire
Wed Dec 11, 2019 1:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Personal grooming
Replies: 4
Views: 196

Re: Personal grooming

To be fair, Jim, mental health and low self esteem can be caused (if indirectly) by Dyspraxia, so it could still be related. And for what it's worth, I'm a lot more attentive to my grooming than I was as a kid/teen, and a lot of that is because people brought it up (and in the case of my teeth, one ...
by Xenavire
Tue Dec 10, 2019 10:59 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Personal grooming
Replies: 4
Views: 196

Re: Personal grooming

He sounds like the total opposite of myself (I do take my time on all counts and do my best to not miss anything.) If he is insecure, it'll be tough, but no matter what, you should find a way to tell him. He might not realise it, and it certainly sounds unpleasant to be around for extended periods o...