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by pendragon
Wed Jul 05, 2017 10:38 am
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: Eyesight and Dyspraxia
Replies: 14
Views: 3336

Re: Eyesight and Dyspraxia

I have a bad left eye too. This is spooky - someone should really fund research into it to see if there's a connection.
by pendragon
Wed Jul 05, 2017 10:33 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Do any other Dyspraxics get mistaken for Gay?
Replies: 31
Views: 11146

Re: Do any other Dyspraxics get mistaken for Gay?

I'm a lesbian who only seems to attract guys, despite being butcher than the average girl. It's a funny old world! Perhaps it's because I like things like sci fi and video games, and seem like I'd be fairly low maintenance. As for the posters being mistaken for gay, it's probably because you don't a...
by pendragon
Wed Jul 05, 2017 10:26 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dyspraxia and sexuality
Replies: 31
Views: 14961

Re: Dyspraxia and sexuality

I realise this is an old thread, but I've often wondered if there's a link between dyspraxia and sexuality. A lesbian myself, practically all the dyspraxics I know are gay or bi. I'm not sure how it applies to men, but speaking from my own experience, my dyspraxia has meant that I struggle with so-c...
by pendragon
Tue Jul 04, 2017 2:08 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Your opinions please re: In a relationship with a man with dyspraxia.
Replies: 27
Views: 5655

Re: In a relationship with a man with dyspraxia.

I'm so glad that a moderator has intervened on this thread. To put this in perspective: I was diagnosed as dyspraxic aged 10, and have struggled forming relationships of any kind throughout my life, not just romantic ones. Fortunately I have been with my current partner for nearly thirteen years. S...
by pendragon
Tue Jul 04, 2017 2:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: 6 year relationship with a man who doesn't understand dyspraxia
Replies: 3
Views: 1849

Re: 6 year relationship with a man who doesn't understand dyspraxia

Your partner sounds like an abusive bully. The fact he knows why you have difficulties but refuses to make allowances for you shows that he is unlikely to change. He would not say and do these hurtful things if he was genuine. If your kitten belongs to you he has no right to take her. Your best cour...
by pendragon
Tue Jul 04, 2017 7:55 am
Forum: Work
Topic: Being 'redeployed'
Replies: 2
Views: 1419

Being 'redeployed'

Like many dyspraxics I deliberately select jobs I think would be a good fit - I'd never consciously choose one which meant I had to be on my feet all day, or one that involved a great deal of maths. Something I *am* curious about: what is the legal position if a dyspraxic is redeployed to an unsuita...
by pendragon
Tue Jul 04, 2017 7:45 am
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: Mistaken for rude?
Replies: 0
Views: 1867

Mistaken for rude?

I thought I'd check if this was a dyspraxic trait or just a personal trait ... I like to think I've a good sense of humour. I love old school comedy and am always quick with quips and puns. Yet when I try to make jokes, more often than not they fall completely flat. If people don't think I'm being s...
by pendragon
Sun May 07, 2017 12:11 pm
Forum: Dyspraxia Chat
Topic: It's time to lose your dunce cap
Replies: 13
Views: 2355

Re: It's time to lose your dunce cap

The most frustrating part of dyspraxia is people correcting you or claiming you've misunderstood them. Frequently people tell me to do something, then ask me to repeat it. I say what they said word for word, yet they still say I've got the wrong end of the stick. It's infuriating! It's meant that th...
by pendragon
Fri May 05, 2017 10:34 pm
Forum: Work
Topic: Dispraxic people working retail?
Replies: 7
Views: 2930

Re: Dispraxic people working retail?

I worked in retail for three years, only moving on when I was redeployed and the role no longer suited me. Before that, I'd declared my disability and the team were very supportive and accommodating. Like most work issues, it all boils down to the management. If you're working in retail again, make ...
by pendragon
Fri May 05, 2017 10:29 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Struggle to maintain eye contact
Replies: 5
Views: 3893

Re: Struggle to maintain eye contact

I've always found maintaining eye contact deeply uncomfortable. It makes me feel so exposed - I don't like people knowing what I'm thinking, and it actually physically hurts. But since it strikes other people as rude or dismissive, I've had to teach myself to overcome these feelings. Good thing my o...
by pendragon
Fri May 05, 2017 10:26 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dyspraxic + LGB
Replies: 6
Views: 2467

Re: Dyspraxic + LGB

Being dyspraxic and gay is a funny mixture. I'm almost completely blind to nuances; my gaydar is practically non existent. People sometimes react with surprise when they learn I'm a lesbian, though that's more to do with them being straight or preconceptions of how lesbians look and behave. Fortunat...
by pendragon
Mon Apr 03, 2017 9:14 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Not all Doom and Gloom?
Replies: 8
Views: 2993

Re: Not all Doom and Gloom?

These are all good points. Being dyspraxic AND gay (hardly the easiest combination!), I'd convinced myself I'd be single forever. In fact, the instant I stopped pining after unattainable people and behaving like an even klutzier Bridget Jones, I met my other half. Real life relationships aren't like...
by pendragon
Mon Apr 03, 2017 9:00 pm
Forum: Work
Topic: Bullying at work
Replies: 22
Views: 6789

Re: Bullying at work

Bullying at work is sadly far more common than we'd like to think. For the first few years of my current job I was part of a very cliquey team where they had all started around the same time and had similar interests. I assumed I didn't fit in because I was the newcomer, but they accepted another gi...
by pendragon
Mon Apr 03, 2017 8:42 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Lack of friends
Replies: 44
Views: 14043

Re: Lack of friends

I've always found friendships challenging. While other people seem to instantly click and form friendship groups, I hover on the outside, waiting to be asked to join - and generally I'm not. I feel like I'm being completely open and transparent, yet I'm often told, "I don't feel like I know you very...
by pendragon
Mon Apr 03, 2017 8:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Your opinions please re: In a relationship with a man with dyspraxia.
Replies: 27
Views: 5655

Re: In a relationship with a man with dyspraxia.

I'm so glad that a moderator has intervened on this thread. To put this in perspective: I was diagnosed as dyspraxia aged 10, and have struggled forming relationships of any kind throughout my life, not just romantic ones. Fortunately I have been with my current partner for nearly thirteen years. Sh...